Relationship Quiz: Is Your Relationship Going to Last?
Are you wondering if you’re in a lasting relationship? Maybe you’re dating and would like to know whether it’s a good idea to marry the person you are with? Take this relationship quiz to find out.
A good relationship is like a growing machine so you want to be sure that you are with a partner who can take this journey with you. The following questionnaire is based on research about what makes loving relationships thrive.
Check the choice (a, b or c) that fits your situation the closest, then check your results against the answers below.
1. I know my intended’s family well enough that
a. I can accept the package.
b. I can accept part of the family.
c. I know I’ll never fit in.
2. My partner and I are
a. Good friends.
b. friends some of the time.
c. good lovers but things are tough out of the bedroom.
3. My intended
a. takes responsibility for his or her actions.
b. says “I’m sorry” occasionally.
c. believes that I am to blame while he/she is always right.
4. My partner and I handle conflicts by
a. taking time-outs until we can listen and learn.
b. going through an obstacle course with occasional success.
c. Having the same old fights without resolution.
5. My partner supports my dreams by
a. encouraging me to do what I love
b. sometimes supporting my dreams and other times laughing at them.
c. ignoring by dreams or putting me down.
6. After a fight
a. we are motivated to learn, fix it, and be friends as well as lovers.
b. we are like a seesaw—up and down.
c. we never seem to resolve the issue.
7. We handle our baggage from the past by
a. claiming our baggage and understanding as much as possible about our shortcomings in order to become a better person.
b. Feeling overwhelmed by forces beyond our control but past is past.
c. Refusing to face elephants in the room..
8. When we are together
a. we are upbeat most of the time.
b. we are lukewarm.
c. we rarely have fun.
9. My partner and I connect with one another
a. on nearly all levels.
b. occasionally.
c.only in bed; otherwise we are more like strangers.
10. When I am with my partner:
a. I feel safe as if he/she has my back
b. I feel safe with my partner most of the time
c. I am afraid of my partner
11. I feel as if my partner:
a. respects me and my opinions even if he/she disagrees
b. respects me in some ways and put me down in others
c. puts me down often
12. My partner and I:
a. pay attention to important feelings in the other
b. sometime support one another’s feelings
c. do not feel safe to express vulnerable feelings in my relationship.
13. My partner and I:
a. are able to dialogue with a conflict
b. have trouble fighting fair
c. It is not safe to argue.
Add up the number of times you chose a, b, or c and find out what your score means.
A most frequent answer: Congratulations. Your chances are good for a lasting and loving relationship.
B most frequent answer: Your relationship has possibilities but also many problems, so you will need to address these issues together. You may want to consider counseling if you cannot resolve problems.
C most frequent answer: Caution: Do not commit to this relationship without significant changes. If you remain in this relationship consider seeking help from a therapist.
Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She is an expert with a doctorate in Counseling Psychology and has worked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She has been interviewed extensively on radio, TV, and in newspapers and magazines. Find more relationship ideas and relaxation techniques on her website and in the award-winning book she co-authored, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and Train Your Brain: For Successful Relationships, CD. She has a new book entitled, Change Your Story, Change Your Brain.