Earl of Grantham Gets Marriage Advice from His Mother Violet

Marriage Advice from The Countess of Grantham

Maggie Smith playing Countess of Grantham on Downton Abbey

Maggie Smith plays the Countess of Grantham (aka Violet, Dowager Countess of Grantham) on Downton Abbey

Countess of Grantham: “You’ve been talking to Isabel….”

Earl of Grantham: “I have been talking to Cora”

Countess of Grantham: “That is a mistake.”

Lord Grantham: “You can’t expect me to avoid talking to my own wife.”

Countess of Grantham: “Why not? I know several couples who are very happy who haven’t spoken in years.”

Okay, so not the best marriage advice in the world, but you have to admit, she lets loose some zingers!

Watch Downton Abbey Season 6, Episode 3 here.

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NewlyWed Chronicles: Curiosity & Play

magic helmetI think one of the funnest things about being a newlywed is being curious about my husband… how he thinks, how he responds to life challenges, his fun aspects, talents, opinions and quirks. As I approach this relationship with curiosity, I find so much joy in getting to know the man I’ve married on a deeper, more playful level. He’s simply delightful.

Curiosity Helps You Stay Objective

This is something I hope to continue throughout our married life. Approaching him with that curiosity helps me stay objective.

I’ve learned over the years that curious objectivity keeps me from taking things so personally. Many times in marriage we make too much about ourselves. Events unfold, people react or pro-act. How they decide to do that is largely about them, their life experiences, their perspectives. It’s rarely about me. I don’t need to take it personally.

Curiosity Keeps Playfulness Alive

Most of all, being curious helps keep the playfulness in our marriage. This photo of my husband was taken a couple weeks ago while we were out shopping for Halloween costumes.

We both love Bugs Bunny’s “What’s Opera, Doc?” episode … you remember that one? Where Elmer Fudd plays a viking? Check it out below…

Hopefully we’ll always keep that playfulness alive. Then again, I think it would be impossible not to. Chris is a hoot!